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Why did you marry your husband?
Your first thought was probably because of LOVE.
Once the relationships starts to get serious, thereâs that little thing in us that makes us want to start attaching his last name to our first name.
We ink it and scribble it in many different colors, and styles; on scrap paper, inside a journal, and even on our hands.
â¦or am I the only one that did that?
At that point, did we take the time to consider all the other, not so glitzy and glamorous things that the union would bring?
Bless, knowing that you were called to this,
that you may inherit a blessing.
1 Peter 3:9b
Iâve written before about being a chapter host for Jen Weaverâs A Wifeâs Secret to Happiness Blog Book Tour.
Today, we journey through Chapter 7, The Blessing of a Good Name.
We dive right into RESPECT.
“â¦and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
âScripture gives no qualifiers â due regard is warranted by the commitment we make in matrimony. A husbandâs role automatically merits respect from his wife.â
Thereâs a brilliant light that shines in all of this!
âWhen we treat our spouses with respect and honor their roles in our marriages, even when they donât live up to what we feel is their potential, we attract Godâs gaze of approval.â
See! Our God is our rewarder, wives!
Â Jen goes on to talk about the influence we have on our men.
âAs hisÂ wife, youâre in his head.â
Iâve seen first hand how a woman edifies her husband, and how a woman destroys her husband.
Itâs the difference between a man thatâs confident in living out Godâs call on him as a husband, father, and in his livelihood, and a man thatâs literally afraid of his wifeâs judgment, belittlement, and frankly, just out-and-out dogging him out.
This is where I need to put on the breaks for a moment, and talk to you like your big sister or Auntie.
Baby girl, if you continue in dogging out your man, you may not lose him physically (youâve made him too afraid to think about doing that), but heâll for sure check out. Youâll be left with a shell of a man.
THAT IS NOT what God ordained as a covenant marriage!
Okay, back on target.
Jen shares practical ways for getting it together and truly loving and respecting your Ephesians 5 guy!
We can get to a point where we fully relinquish our role as co-creator and make room for the Lord to speak directly to him.
There is such great freedom for you both in this!
Toward the end of the chapter, wives are given a way to assess where we are by asking, âAre your #wifestyle eyes Haughty or Hottie?â
Letâs take an honest inventory of the state of our hearts and submit our plans to God.
Go in the blessing that He has ordained for your marriage!
- Consider recent words you’ve spoken to and about your husband. Are they edifying or discouraging?
- Have you trained your eyes to focus on negative or positive aspects of your husband’s personality or character?
To read chapter 7 in full, you can order your copy of A Wifeâs Secret to Happiness here or other retail stores.
To catch up and/or continue to follow along with the weekly blog book tour, find it all at The Beautiful Deep.
I want to thank Jen with all of my heart for the opportunity to bring this blog post to you!
Here I am, a married woman of 22 years, and the Lord has used A Wifeâs Secret to Happiness mightily in my life. We should all be in the habit of learning. Be teachable and apply the wisdom of Godâs word and His servants.
And NOW for a super fun part!! You can enter to win a paperback copy of A Wife’s Secret to Happiness of your own!
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Living to Worship Him,
*I understand that there will be some that read this blog post and want to throw my writing across the room and have it land against a wall.
To my hurting-in-marriage friend, I wonât be as bold as to tell you that there are absolute answers for you in this post. I do know the God that ordained and blessed the marriage covenant. You probably need more than what I can give you in written words, but please know that it is in my heart to pray for you. God knows your anguish and He hears your cries and loves you deep.