Brian, my husband, and I are very privileged to be involved in a couples/marriage mentoring program.
Last week’s reading from the book that we’re using; 2 Becoming One by Don and Sally Meredith really spoke volumes to me.
Admittedly, so far not much in the book applied to my husband and I because it focused more on couples always being “at odds” with each other. That didn’t describe Brian and I. We were becoming turned off…BUT!
Chapter Nine (Wisdom or Deceit) has a paragraph that had me saying, “Exactly! Now were getting to the heart of things.”.
“Every marriage has two people who are free from the struggle of questioning God’s Word. They recognize that Satan will try to deceive them; thus neither will regard the other mate as the problem. Nor does either mate succumb to Satan’s lies. Each knows that he has already been defeated at the Cross. The two mates are victorious over Satan’s scheme, claiming the victory that Jesus already won, “having disarmed the powers and authorities, … triumphing over the cross” (Colossians 2:15 NIV). The result of a couple’s faith and obedience will be oneness and blessing in their personal lives and in their marriage.”*
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom, and in all your getting, get understanding. Proverbs 4:7
Wisdom and understanding of God’s Word in marriage is so vital. The “marriage verses” pertain to married couples, but there is so much value in every scripture that relates to all relationships and how to treat others; even in and especially in our marriages.
I’ll go as far to say that my marriage relationship is where I should “practice” how to treat others. Why would I treat my husband like crap and smile in the face of others?
Deception plays a major role in discord in marriage. Many times I find my perception of a situation totally false. God has blessed me with a husband that is quick to lovingly point that out to me.
Our pastor described it best in last Sunday’s Marriage for Dummies sermon series, “Don’t assign motives.” What does that mean? Don’t automatically assume the worse of a situation when it may not even be the motive that a spouse had.
My husband and I have come through trying times but have always, always been quick to know that it’s an attack from our adversary and that we are not each other’s enemies. We refuse to listen to the lies of satan.
Do you struggle with questioning God’s Word in your marriage? Do you recognize that it’s Satan attacking your marriage when you’re angry with your spouse? Please take the words of Colossians 2:15 to heart when you’re faced with any problem; and especially problems that may be in your marriage.
Challenge: Search God’s Word this week on how to treat others as Christ has commanded. Insert your spouse in the scenario. It will change the way you view him/her. It’s changed my view! Can you do me a favor and comment back on what you’ve found?
Be abundantly blessed!!
*Don and Sally Meredith, 2 Becoming One, p108-109