Oh yes! It’s happened before.
I THINK that a friend has wronged me, therefore, I FEEL wronged.
I can get all in my mind and since it’s the only voice that I hear, it’s telling me that I’m right, and my thoughts are valid…
but are they really? Is the thought about my friend really true?
I’ve felt and have actually been slighted, excluded, and put at a distance by friends.
Then, I started reading Lisa-Jo Baker’s newest book, “Never Unfriended”, and got to the chapter where she encourages me to: “Give the Gift of the Benefit of the Doubt”.
Sometimes there’s an actual conflict brewing, but sometimes we’re the ones stirring it up by our
overreaction to a perceived slight
– Lisa-Jo Baker, Never Unfriended
But for real. WHAT does that look like?
How do I override the feelings? Lisa-Jo mentions a couple steps that she personally takes. I’ll highlight them and leave it up to you to read more about it in Never Unfriended.
- Physically move from where you are. Change the scenery.
- Get into the spiritual room of your heavenly Father.
The thing that I want to point out is that there ARE times when there have been crazy bad things that happen in friendships, but how we handle both our emotions and the whole situation sets the tone for an explosion or sweet reconciliation.
That is the point that Lisa-Jo wants to get us to; righteously dealing with the issues.
Giving the gift of the benefit of the doubt isn’t the only thing that Lisa-Jo talks about in Never Unfriended.
She writes in 15 chapters, breaking them into 4 parts:
- Part 1: What Are We Afraid Of?
- Part 2: What Can’t We Do about It?
- Part 3: What Can We Do about it?
- Part 4: Where Do We Start?
The secret to finding and keeping lasting friendships: Become women who want to see
the women around them flourish.
Lisa-Jo Baker, Never Unfriended
While we are all hungry for friendship, it’s the fear of feeling awkward and being rejected, left out, or hurt (again) that often keeps us from connecting. What if we knew we could NEVER by unfriended? Would we risk friendship then? Starting with that guarantee from the most faithful friend who ever lived—Jesus—this book is a step-by-step guide to friendships you can trust. It answers the questions that lurk under the surface of every friendship—What are we afraid of? What can’t we change? What can we change? And where do we start? In her new book, Never Unfriended, Lisa-Jo Baker shares personal stories and practical tips to help you make the friends, and be the friend, that lasts.
To come alongside the release of Never Unfriended, DaySpring has included the introduction of the Conversation Starter Jar!
I, for one, am not the world’s best at starting conversations or remembering to ask questions of my friends.
My husband teases and says that he NEVER has an issue with starting a conversation, but this girl does and I take full advantage of a few of the 60 questions from these super cute strips!
A few sample questions:
- ”What do you feel when someone shows up at your door unannounced?
- “What’s one dream that you’ve set aside for the moment?
- “Have you ever been pulled over by the police?”
- “What’s something you’ve tried, that you’ll never, ever try again?”
- “When was the last time you astonished yourself?”
The Conversation Start Jar is a great idea for any gathering where you need an ice-breaker, you want to really get to know the people you’ve just met, or going deeper into friendships!
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Living To Worship Him,