Older women (are to) teach what is good…that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands…
Titus 2:3-5 (emphasis added)
A worker at home is someone who guards the dwelling or is a keeper of the household.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve not done a good job of this since day one of marriage. I even wrote a post about it about a month ago. I WAS a wishful thinker as of a few days ago.
I don’t even remember which day it was last week that my husband was at odds with me.
Looking back, after a deep and long sulking session,I could see that I wasn’t keeping up my “end” of our partnership. He’s always been faithful and diligent to bring income into our home; small or great. I, on the other hand, waned badly on my part of being a worker at home.
I’m without excuse. I’m blessed to be a wife/mom that can stay at home with our children. With my being able to stay home, discipline (instructing) my children in matters of being a worker at home along with me should have been/should be some of the first lessons that are taught.
It’s like I’m starting from scratch in knowing how to love my husband and my home more and to be a good steward.
I asked my man to list, yes list, the things that would make him happiest when he comes home from work every evening. We came up with a list together of only 5 or 6 things. Not a lot, but significant for him. I’m not going to list those things here, but know that its not only doable, but actually easy on a daily basis and I wont have to feel like a slave to my home.
By making sure those things are done, it will free me of being frantic when he gets home.
By making that list, I can better instruct my children in being workers at home.
You’ve heard the term, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”? Well, the same goes for Daddy too!
At first I had the attitude, and my husband knows this, that “I’ll do it just to keep the peace”. My heart has fully changed to “I’ll do it because I am your helper (help meet), I want to honor God and you; to show you that I am very appreciative of the home that I have and because I LOVE YOU.”
I’m now glad that my husband came to me with this. If he hadn’t, how would I know what was making him ill toward me? How would I know that I needed to change, tweak or re-work some things?
I would want him to know what was bothering me or making me feel ill toward him.
It’s not pleasant when the one that you love most brings correction. In essence, that’s what it is. Is it not biblical?
I don’t think that he was being selfish in his desire for (I cringe saying this…) a clean home. He was bringing to my attention something that shouldn’t have had to come from him.
I’m a work in progress, but this is a work that with God’s help and guidance will be continually walked out.
My man is my first priority here on this big ball of mud. I’m not ashamed to say that I want him happy, pleased, and more than ecstatic to come home to his woman and know that he has peace and a haven to relax in!
Before I even read her post today, I’d made up my mind to blog about last week. God is right on time all the time. He wasn’t slackin’ today either!
Since you’re done reading my post, head on over to Come Have a Peace to read her entry and those of other participants.