Paralyzing Thoughts on Parenting

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Beautiful children. Moldable children. Children that God has gently placed in our care to bring up in His ways.
I was speaking with my husband today and we were talking about partnership in marriage. The subject of the “day-to-day” happenings of our home came up. Loosely quoting my husband, “Yes it matters to me what goes on at home, but I don’t HAVE to be in on every decision that you make where our children are concerned. I trust you.”
Those last three words nearly paralyzed me! He trusts me. What a heavy weight. I don’t know that I trust myself; especially when it comes to making decisions about our teenage daughters.
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Sure, I can handle what to fix for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I can handle telling the kids “yes” or “no” about going to a friends house. I can even handle helping them with their school work, but what about the heavy things? Things like; can my teenage daughter drive around the circle without me in the passenger seat since she only has her permit, or when the other older daughter wants to watch a movie that may not be all bad but not all good.
I was paralyzed at the thought that my husband and I may not be on the same page when it comes down to those day-to-day decisions.
I am soon reminded that the Holy Spirit is my helper and I can always, ALWAYS make my requests for wisdom known.

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and withought reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:4

My request is usually, “Lord help me hold my tongue before I say something that I can’t take back.” or “Lord, Your wisdom is needed right now. Please help me to not make a hasty decision either way.”
Lately, I’ve decided to stand on and bathe myself in:

Isaiah 54:13. All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.

I know full well that I have a part to do. I must introduce them to the Word and guide them DAILY in it. That means that I will have to do the same for myself…Daily.

Lord, You have clearly said in Your Word that children are a heritage from You, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of my youth. Happy is my man who has his quiver full of them; they shall not be ashamed, but shall speak with their enemies in the gate. (Psalm 127:3-5)

My husband and I are their preparers and equip-ers. Lord, give me Your grace and overflowing knowledge to impart to our children so that they will never be ashamed. Strong men and women in their faith in You is an attainable desire.
I have been searching many different avenues on how to raise children to love God and desire to live for Him fully. One source that I’d like to share with you that has blessed me is an article from Kenneth and Gloria Copeland, How To Raise Godly Children.
Now, Ladies, it’s your turn. Any wisdom that you would like to share with your sister? How are you raising your children to honor and serve God with their whole being? I’m looking forward to hearing from you. God bless!!

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About Kela

I’m Kela! I am a Daddy’s (Abba Father) girl, wife, mom, and grandma. I’m also an educator, writer, singer, Bible study leader, and mentor.
I’m a Southern girl that drinks coffee even in the heat of Summer.
My passion is encouraging others in their faith.

  • I love the Scripture verses you chose for this post.
    I also think you raise a good point that we need to depend upon our husbands as leaders…but ALSO have confidence in the Lord to make decisions when needed, without that input. I knew a young widow years ago…two daughters…and I often pondered this very thing…about what a heavy burden it must have been for her to have to make ALL of those decisions!
    You ask what we do to raise our children in God’s Word? I believe that EXAMPLE speaks volume to kids…I believe that we must never make a decision, nor set a standard that we are not willing to keep ourselves…such as “NO, you may not watch movies like that” (when we then turn around and watch something similar)…my husband and I try to let our kids SEE US living a Christ-centered life…and also speak to them about tough decisions and choices WE have made in our adult peer group that “puts us outside the crowd” so-to-speak. When teens see us willing to “walk the walk” and not just “talk the talk” it goes a long way with them!
    Bless your beautiful family Kela!

  • Wow!!!!!!!!! Sigh… what a responsibility we have.

    Makes me that much more convinced… I need to be in His Word, so much more!

    Then, and only then, will I live “true Christianity” before them.

    So glad I found you, Kela!

    Hugs,
    Traci

  • One thing that we do is teach them that we are to be set apart from the rest of the world. While we are all made by the same Creator, we are His children and therefore should act like it.

    We use the example of kids throwing a fit out in public. When we choose not to serve God, that is exactly what we look like. It has been profound!

    BTW, I cheated last night and got on FB for five minutes. I felt sooo bad, so pray for me okay!

  • So refreshing Women of God!

    ~Judy, you are so right. If our children don’t see us live it, how are they going to be “convinced” to live it? That thing called the flesh wants so badly to rise up and cause trouble even when I know the truth of how I’m to conduct myself. I truly need to pray that I’m a shining example of Christ daily!

    ~Traci, I think that we’re all a work in progress. We may not reach perfection, but as long as the earnest desire and will is there, we’ll get closer. The awesome thing that we possess is God’s grace to get up and start all over again if/WHEN we stumble. I’m glad that we’ve found each other too! 🙂

    ~Jennifer, were you riding in my van on Saturday? I was talking to Aubrey about that VERY thing..sanctification. I apologized to her about not being more diligent in being sanctified; that our family had grown way too lax. Now, she already thinks that we’re sanctified enough and wonders how in the world can we get more “strict”. LOL. I told her that God desires for us to enjoy our lives and not to live in a state of religion but there are lines that are drawn and there are plenty of things we can do that are fun that don’t violate God’s commands. I do know that it struck a cord with her because later that evening she posted a facebook status, “Got a lot on my mind right now. Rents always give you something to think about: good, bad or just something you don’t wan to hear.”
    …and yes, I saw you on last night ;p . I’m praying for you still.

  • Wow, girl! Scripture is so correct when they it says, “We suffer like things.”

    I hear you on every account. My worries are your worries as far as the children go. I just keep myself bathed in prayer and I talk to them about everything…my shortcomings, my dreams, desire’s, and I give them the platform of talking to me.

    This was an excellent post. Very good writing too.

  • Child, just wanted to tell you: “How special I am.”

    I was talking about your post, last night to my husband. Actually, I read it to him. Then I said, “Man she’s really a daddy’s girl. She has him mentioned in her “About Me” section. His reply was, “Really.” Well, duh to me…I just realized what daddy you were talking about, LOL!

  • Angela, that is too funny 🙂
    Yes, I’m my DADDY’s (Abba Father)girl. I guess I need to make that more clear? LOL
    Have a blessed day!