Courtship Questions

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As some of you may know, our oldest daughter, Aubrey, has made a commitment to herself and her future husband to remain pure.

Aubrey recently updated her Facebook status with a quote from Home Educating Family magazine:

“Did you ever stop to think that not dating is a kindness, a splendid expression of love, to your future husband?” –An Excerpt From Get Real, Embrace the Reality of Ruth by Rebecca Ingram Powell

Just imagine how my momma heart soared!

The girl is taking this thing seriously!

She’s walking it out right before our eyes. She’s preparing herself personally so that she will be a blessing and complement to her future husband.

We’re still navigating and talking about the difference between dating and courtship. We are in favor of courtship, but even that looks different for every family.

Aubrey has expressed wanting to know God’s will sooner than later. We know that we cannot rush, nor do we want to rush God’s hand, but I can empathize with her.

I found a meaty “questionaire” on Your Sacred Calling’s site today that has a plethora of courtship questions for future suitors.

I’ll be going over these with my husband and see what we see.


Moms of older and younger daughters, keep the line of communication open with them about this subject. Aubrey was almost 15 years old when she first made this commitment. She’ll be 17 years old in 3 months.

We have a 15 year old daughter that has the same core values and we’re still finding our way with her.

God is faithful to our family and we don’t take that for granted.

Living With Sword and Coffee,

Disclaimer: Not every family is the same nor does every family share all views or religious backgrounds/beliefs. Stacy clearly points this (amongst other things) out in her post. Please keep that in mind as you read through the questions. 
I was not asked to endorse her blog. 

About Kela

I'm Kela! I am a Daddy's (Abba Father) girl, wife, mom, and grandma. I'm also an educator, writer, singer, Bible study leader, and mentor. I'm a Southern girl that drinks coffee even in the heat of Summer. My passion is encouraging others in their faith.

  • Yeah Aubrey!

    Meaty questions indeed. My girls are a little younger, but that gave me a lot to consider.

  • Hi Kela
    I rejoice with you! I like the way you are honest about your second daughter… it is a different journey for each of our children though we need to uphold the same principles and truths. We are in much the same place with our daughters hearts both being the same, but the expression of that differs.

  • @Jennifer, indeed! It is nice to know about certain things while they’re still young. This also gives you more specifics on how to pray for your children’s future.

    @Belinda, it is so wonderful to hear from you! You’ve been a mainstay for me for several years! You’re one of my role-models in this parenting journey!

    Our daughters are also different in that my oldest is more vocal in her commitment and is determined to let no young man get past the “guarder of her heart” first (God and her daddy).
    Our 15 y/o listens to us and agrees with us but its still a different thought process.

  • Praise God for her stance on this! My daughter also 15 is right there with her. 🙂 She wrote a great post about waiting. 🙂 Going to check out those questions…

  • Off to check out these questions. It’s refreshing to see so many like minded families. I was a single mom who became a Christian at 20 years of age. God was gracious to allow me to experience courtship when I was 24 and marriage at 25. It’s what I want for my children, it’s possible and I know the fruit of it.

  • What a profound statement! Wow- great job with teaching those core values!

  • Joy

    Wow! That is so awesome! Definitely something to be proud of! I have a 13 year old daughter and we talk a lot. I am headed to check those questions out!

  • love her commitment!!!